How to Flirt - 8 Easy Tips

 1. Lower your expectations. Flirting is fun - that's what it is! If you go into flirting expecting a relationship, every time a wonderfully funny and magical conversation, then you will only be disappointed and maybe a little desperate. Remember that you are only in it to have fun and hopefully meet some great new people.

2. Appear approachable. Even if you are nervous, try to relax. Don't forget to smile and laugh. Use body language to indicate you're single - turn your body slightly out into the room and scan. No one will approach someone who is giving off hostile signals or who is completely preoccupied with a conversation with their friend.

3. Read body language. Look for people who interest you and look for signs that interest them. Do they bring back your look? Are their body or feet turned slightly towards you? None of these signals are foolproof, and it's much easier to tell if someone is interested when you actually talk to them. Watch out for signals like

4. Make eye contact. Studies show that you need to look at someone at least three times before they approach you. Don't stare, but make sure your gaze lasts a few seconds. Make sure you smile and slowly look away. If you look back and the person is looking back at you, chances are they are interested.

5. Speak up! Gather your courage and take the first step. It doesn't have to be anything big, just a little casual talk, but it's a start. Your approach will likely depend on where you are. A conversation in a restaurant or bar will be different from a conversation in a supermarket queue! Start with innocuous topics and common ground: weather, location, activity—whatever is going on. If it goes well, you can move on to deeper topics later.

6. Give the person your full attention. Listen carefully, laugh at their jokes, and don't get distracted by what's going on around you. In fact, it's more important to look interested than interesting. Being a good listener is more important to successful flirting than being funny.

7. Try a casual touch. If it's going well and you feel like there's chemistry, you might want to try some playful touch. For example, safe touches are brief but natural touches of someone's arm or hand as part of a conversation. Be careful to gauge their reaction - if they seem defensive, they're either not interested or ready, so back off. Women often take longer than men to feel comfortable with people entering their personal space, while men are usually more comfortable from the start.

8. Close the deal. If you like someone and things are going well, bite the bullet and say it! Ask if you can have their phone number or email address and if possible make an appointment. If the person happens to say no, don't take it personally - they just saved you a lot of time and possibly money! This will be much better used on the next person you are flirting with will say yes